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View with extreme caution 27 plus week programmes - they are likely to be largely ineffective.
Respect's current accredited programme list is here
1. Screams in Silence*-Cheshire
(Stockport) *specialists South Asian communities
2. Safe Domestic Abuse Team,
NSPCC-Cumbria (Barrow in Furness)
3. Let Go Project-Cumbria (Penrith)
4. Ahimsa-Devon (Plymouth)
5. REPAIR-Devon (Barnstaple)
6. Reportedly not working 8th Jan 2014 REPAIR-Devon (Exeter)
7. Reportedly not working 8th Jan 2014 REPAIR-Devon (Newton Abbot)
8. Family matters-Dorset
9. Families without Fear-Greater
Abuser programme Closed?
10. SIRI behavioural health*-Greater
London (Haringey) *specialists African and African Caribbean communities
11. DVIP*-Greater London
(Hammersmith) *Includes Al Aman project, specialists Arabic speaking
12. DVIP-Greater London (Southwark)
13. RELATE - Barking and Dagenham)
14. The Men's Centre-Greater London
15. Tryangle Project-Greater London
16. Hampton Trust*-Hampshire
*operates at more than one site but details not given)
17. Pendle DV Initiative-Lancashire
18. Domestic Violence Integrated Response
19. INPACT-Merseyside (Knowsley)
20. Merseyside Abusive Partner
Programme-Merseyside (St Helens)
21. NSPCC: Liverpool-Merseyside
22. S.A.F.E.-North Yorkshire
23. S.A.F.E.-North Yorkshire (Redcar)
12 week motivational interviewing focus
25. Somerset Change-Somerset (Yeovil)
26. Somerset Change-Somerset
27. Walsall DVF Ltd
28. South Tyneside Domestic Abuse Perpetrator
Programme -Tyne and Wear (South Shields)
29. Surestart Newcastle-Tyne and Wear
30. Chrysalis-North Tees (Stockton)
31. Chrysalis-North Tees (Hartlepool)
32. Relate Coventry-West Midlands
33. S.T.O.P.-West Yorkshire (Leeds)
Believed to have closed
34. 8 days a week-West Yorkshire
35. SPLITZ support services-Wiltshire
no longer on the accredited list
36. SPLITZ support services-Wiltshire
no longer on the accredited list
37. Montgomeryshire Family Crisis Centre-Powys
2008-Relate Greater Manchester.
39 Peterborough Family services Independent
- Many of the above projects take referrals from
a wider geographical area than the town / borough they are based in.
Work with domestic abusers
Our work emerged from RELATE in 1994. We immediately
recognised that work with abusers was potentially too dangerous for a single
agency to engage in, and that RELATE risked too much of its good reputation to
work with a client group where potentially a great deal can go wrong. We separated. We have been regularly
delivering this type of work since 1996, in very much the same format, because
it largely works, but with the improvements in content which the delivery of
over 140 courses can provide.
For many years we have worried about the impact of RESPECT
on this type of work. RESPECT claim to represent "Best practice", practice in which the public and funders can have confidence! For a long
time we were amazed at their claims but it is only recently, from our
reading, we have begun understand just what their view of "best practice" is
about, and just why they are seeking to impose it.
A corner stone of work with abusers, I would suggest, is that it must be as
effective as possible. It may not "solve" every abuser's problems, but it must
address the problems. If it fails to address them it was useless for the client,
useless for a partner and any children of the family, and useless for society.
Problems No 1.
Abusers come in both sexes, more men than women, but both
sexes, so why would RESPECT wish to prevent work with abusive women? Problem No 2 Abusers are also found in each type of sexual relationship,
heterosexual, gay and lesbian. So why would RESPECT claim that it could only be dealt with when it involved men being abuive to women? Problem No 3. There is also a very wide spectrum of abuse, a
kind of continuum, but not necessarily a continuum along which all abusers will
The radical feminist movement of the 70s and 80s developed
a stereotype abuser, he has gradually been funneled into "a coercive controller", always, of course, a male. Popularly - perhaps unpopularly - he is called a "snake",
an "intimate / urban terrorist". It is always a HE, despite the now recognised facts that
in 2008 14.9% of domestic abuse (at least) was by women on men and now by 2013 that figure is 19.7%. The coercive controller / intimate terririst does exist. I have interviewed
many more than 1,250 men and women and I have met him certainly on no more than 20 at most. But this is not to say that he does not exist much more
often, amongst the cases which go to court and get prosecuted, for example.
Obviously we only see a self "selected" cross-section, which is not going to be
But ACPO, also estimated his occurence in the UK at 22,321.
I am going to suggest that the radical feminist movement
believes that "violent men do not change - the only thing for a woman to do is
to leave him." That was certainly Sandra Horley's view when she addressed a conference
in Northampton in 1994, those were her exact words. The radical feminist movement
understandably wants to protect women. In those days they had very little money
with which to run refuges.
According to Wikipedia REFUGE can now afford to allow 1 member of staff to pocket a vast amount in salary and pensions. For Duluth's plans to be
realised work with abusers needed to
take place. They didn't want to do it, realising that it would bring them
into exactly the same conflicts that the police had experienced for years
before. They also wanted this work to fail.
So, when the opportunity arose in 1991 they founded the
Domestic Violence Intervention Project (DVIP) in London. They made certain
requirements. Those requirements still form the basis of DVIP and RESPECT to
this day. They are the fundamental
problems that this type of work encounters today, with the exception that
they now "appear" to be based on knowledge gained from within, after all this time and experience. They are, in fact, still
based on "stereotypes taken from without".
The following book throws enormous light on the machinations of feminism.
"Co-ordinating Community Responses to Domestic
Violence - Lessons from Duluth and Beyond"
Melanie Shepherd and Ellen Pence.
Times surrounding later stages of pregnancy and the arrival of babies can be particularly difficult.
These are times of enormous change, and usually great uncertainty on everybody's part.
there are anxieties about who the father is, it is almost a worry for every father, but such doubts are, of course, potentially an enormous and divisive insult for
Very often there are anxieties about the mother's
health. Death in child-birth used to be a very common occurrence. The
baby's health is also critical to a couple, There is just so much
that can go wrong, and when it does, there is frequently nowhere to take
Speak with us on the phone about it and follow the links later which will help you to other sources of help.
significant number of mothers experience "baby blues" through to
a full-blown post natal depression. This is a very significant illness
and you will definitely need professional help for the mother, usually
via your doctor or health visitor, and very probably support for
yourself. The vast, vast majority of mothers recover very well, but the
problems last and last, the recovery is usually over 3 month and 6
month periods. You will both need a lot of support from a wide range of people.
The death of a near relative, particularly a parent, or a child, will almost inevitably raise enormous tensions, for a whole variety of reasons, as do bad accidents, and, at one level, to a somewhat lesser extent, severe illnesses or unemployment.
Soldiers or other military personnel returning from war zones or other very stressful situations are another phenomena which does not cause domestic abuse / violence but, where it is present, it often increases the frequency and severity.