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Our work is for those people seeking help to address / change their abusive behaviours to a wife or husband, a partner or former partner and thereby to reduce the risks to their child or children of witnessing such behaviours or being precipitated into "taking sides" 

Cafcass are the representative of children in the courts. They currently insist on "Respect Accredited Work." The effect of this on Family courts and Magistrates courts is often that these courts blindly follow that advice.

The Washington State Institute produced a report in 2013 of which page 6, linked here states that such Duluth-like programmes actually increase recidivism (re-offending).
The link is here.

This situation was also recognised in the MInistry of Justice Paper,
linked here. The MOJ effectively employs Cafcass.

The "Duluth-like" work which Respect accredits is for example 
the DVIP in London.

Temper's next course dates 2018 in Harrow:

Jan 20-21   plus  Feb 10-11
Mar 17-18   plus  April 14-15  
April 21-22  plus May 5th & 6th   
May 19-20  plus June 2-3
June 9-10   plus June 30-July 1

Taster days for professionals and others:
February: Fri 16th, or Sat 17th or  Sun 18th

An advertising sheet is available at this address:

You can also make payments or donations via the same link. An application form can be downloaded from this link in word  or from this in PDF
Payments  for our work can be made via this link.

  For those seeking help to address / change their abusive  and or violent behaviour to a wife or husband, a partner or former partner.   The safety of children needs to be the primary focus in this type of work. That is why Temper Domestic Violence is gender neutral in its work, enabling both men and women in heterosexual and gay and lesbian relationships the opportunity to take part and bring about in themselves changes which will improve the safety of their children, their partners, current and future and themselves.     What is Temper?   Temper is a registered charity focused mainly on working with people whose behaviour in their intimate relationships is a cause for concern.  We work closely with aggressive people to help them understand why they behave in such ways and to help them bring about changes in their behaviour.   Temper was devised in 1994/5 and improvements are continuously being made in the light of the experience of more than 1,000 clients who have completed the work, both men and women.  We work on the basis that emotions drive behaviour, therefore emotional regulation is required. Duluth and accredited programmes follow the belief that it is all about "power and control".  The late Ellen Pence who co-constructed the Duluth 28-32 session model nailed that mistake in 1999!

"Anger management" is often what is deemed to be needed by the authorities and this was where we started. Emotions drive behaviour. It is much more likely that an individual will need to learn how to "regulate" his or her emotions.  Anger may well be one of them, but some cases are really much more about the primary emotions of fear, or disgust, or trust and other secondary, discrete emotions, shame, jealousy, envy and others.

Cafcass and the so-called "accredited programmes".

 (p.25) What is the impact on reoffending? The most recent systematic review of US evidence indicates that the Duluth Model appears to have no effect on recidivism.154 However, this review also identified substantial reductions in domestic violence reoffending by offenders who had attended other interventions. These interventions varied widely in their approach (including cognitive behavioural therapy, relationship enhancement and group couples counselling), and the reviewers were therefore unable to make recommendations about specific preferred alternatives to the Duluth Model.   https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/305319/transforming-rehabilitation-evidence-summary-2nd-edition.pdfhttps://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/305319/transforming-rehabilitation-evidence-summary-2nd-edition.pdf

Early Intervention report
P 70 71 http://www.eif.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Early-Intervention-in-Domestic-Violence-and-Abuse-Full-Report.pdf However, NICE did find moderate evidence that short (16 weeks or less) group interventions improved measures of changes in attitudes, including: motivation/ readiness to change, accountability for abuse, and demonstrating empathy. Examples of psychological outcomes include measures of: anxiety, self-esteem, depression, and stress immediately following the intervention. 4.4.4 Promising areas for further development The debate about the "Duluth" model is a very good example of the tensions between the requirements of evaluation on the one hand and the locally variable and the self-generated approaches of much local practice on the other. Much of the current provision of protection and treatment for victims of domestic violence and 130 Ibid., pg. 6 131 NICE Op. Cit p. 15 Early Intervention in Domestic Violence & Abuse Early Intervention Foundation 71 abuse that is available in the UK has been developed by volunteers and other very committed individuals and groups with a strong concern to help victims but little formal training in or funds for evaluation. The finding that perpetrator programmes based solely in feminist theory do not reduce recidivism is an important signal that more should be done to develop and test approaches grounded in other theoretical frameworks. Babcock states that although none of the three treatment models included in the meta-analysis was shown to be superior to the others, funders should not dismiss these programmes altogether. Improvements should be sought by tailoring and refining of the available programmes for specific clientele, rather than rigidly adhering to any single method. Babcock points to the positive effects on recidivism of targeting domestic violence and abuse perpetrators with individually tailored programmes, reflecting specific personal histories.132
The "accreditor's senior staff virtually all emerged from the DVIP. Following the "disastrous" research of DVIP in 1998. The problem was drop-outs. Their Duluth based programme was re-written and the Mirabal research, commissioned by the accreditor, avoided stating that the completion rate had apparently halved. The actual figures were all obscured by "percentages" and the academic criticsim of this has been significant. A link will be provided here.

Social workers and social services:

What is almost certainly required for many of the complex cases involved in this agenda is stability. Unfortunately many authorities choose to employ "temp" social workers, usually employed at twice the cost to the authority - the social worker's wages plus the 100% mark-up for the temp agency. The result is instability and often no follow-up and also confusion caused by "differing opinions" of differing social workers on the cases. We have heard of one couple who had 11 different social workers.  Our letter to  client whose work with us was apparently being undermined by a social worker is linked here:

Services for clients  Telephone Support

Course content
The course has three main components and a therapeutic thread.
a) Learning new skills with which to manage yourself in a couple relationship and understand yourself and your partner (and children) .
b) Learning about many different important aspects of yourself and your relationship.
c) Developing your awareness so that you can "regulate your emotions", rather than 'simply' managing your anger.

The more detailed themes of the intensive course are linked here in the form of "3 strands".

Weekend 1 -Day 1 The child - emotional experiences and basic skills - listening, talking and feeding back 8 primary emotions
Weekend 1 - Day 2 The adolescent - position in the family. Experiential exercises, Developing insight Impact of children witnessing "behaviour".
Weekend 2 - Day 1 The young adult &sexuality. Violence and abuse in the relationship.
Weekend 2 - Day 2 The mature adult / parent. Regulating oneself and the management of personally difficult situations.

 Following successful completion of the course, participants receive a certificate and are entitled to on-going support. To date more than 900 males and 100 females have completed the course, 100%  with around  200 cases commissioned by social services.  The course has also been accepted by over 20 courts including family courts, many of which are named in page 2.

 Emotions drive behaviour, not "power and control".
"Anger management" is often what is deemed to be needed by the authorities. But since emotions drive behaviour it is more likely that you need to learn how to "regulate your emotions ".  Anger may well be one of them, but some cases are really more about fear, or jealousy or "attachment".
 "Affect regulation" is the expression for the new therapies which are now quickly emerging, resulting from the new sciences which are converging on  emotions and which are slowly supplanting "Cognitive behavioural therapy" CBT.

Ongoing support
Assuming you finish the course,  we will continue to support you for up to a year by telephone and email and, for people who need it, further face-to-face work is available. Usually we want to make contact with youa  further 3 times after 2 months, 6 months and 1 year to hear and check out how you are managing with your new skills.

If our project does not appear right for you or you are too far away to make use of it we would advise you to be very cautious when approaching the (pro-) feminist, RESPECT aligned projects. One man's experience of DVIP is recorded here. You may find alternatives at this link. Counselling-directory.org.uk