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For those seeking help to address / change their abusive behaviour to a wife or husband, a partner or former partner.
Next course dates 2018 Harrow:
Jan 20-21 plus Feb 10-11
Mar 17-18 plus April 14-15
April 21-22 plus May 12-13
May 19-20 plus June 2-3
June 9-10 plus June 30-July 1
Taster days for professionals and others:
February: Fri 16th, or Sat 17th or Sun 18th
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For those seeking help to address / change their abusive and or violent behaviour to a wife or
husband, a partner or former partner.
The safety of children needs to be the primary focus in this
type of work. That is why Temper Domestic Violence is gender neutral in its
work, enabling both men and women in heterosexual and gay and lesbian
relationships the opportunity to take part and bring about in themselves
changes which will improve the safety of their children, their partners,
current and future and themselves.
What is Temper?
Temper is a registered charity focused mainly on working
with people whose behaviour in their intimate relationships is a cause for
concern. We work closely with aggressive
people to help them understand why they behave in such ways and to help them
bring about changes in their behaviour.
Temper was devised
in 1994/5 and improvements are continuously being made in the light of the experience
of more than 1,000 clients who have completed the work, both men and women.
We work on the basis
that emotions drive behaviour, therefore emotional regulation is required. Duluth and accredited programmes follow the belief that it is all about "power and control". The late Ellen Pence who co-constructed the Duluth 28-32 session model nailed that mistake in 1999!
"Anger management" is often what is deemed to be needed by the
authorities and this was where we started. Emotions drive behaviour. It is
much more likely that an individual will need to learn how to "regulate" his or
her emotions. Anger may well be one of them, but some cases are really much
more about the primary emotions of fear, or disgust, or trust and other
secondary, discrete emotions, shame, jealousy, envy and others.
Cafcass and the so-called "accredited programmes".
What is the impact on
reoffending? The most recent systematic review of US evidence indicates
that the Duluth Model appears to have no effect on recidivism.154 However, this
review also identified substantial reductions in domestic violence reoffending
by offenders who had attended other interventions. These interventions varied
widely in their approach (including cognitive behavioural therapy, relationship
enhancement and group couples counselling), and the reviewers were therefore
unable to make recommendations about specific preferred alternatives to the
Early Intervention report
P 70 71
However, NICE did find moderate evidence that short (16
weeks or less) group interventions improved measures of changes in attitudes, including: motivation/ readiness
to change, accountability for abuse, and demonstrating empathy. Examples of
psychological outcomes include measures of: anxiety, self-esteem, depression,
and stress immediately following the intervention. 4.4.4 Promising areas for
further development The debate about the "Duluth" model is a very good example
of the tensions between the requirements of evaluation on the one hand and the
locally variable and the self-generated approaches of much local practice on
the other. Much of the current provision of protection and treatment for
victims of domestic violence and 130 Ibid., pg. 6 131 NICE Op. Cit p. 15 Early
Intervention in Domestic Violence & Abuse Early Intervention Foundation 71
abuse that is available in the UK has been developed by volunteers and other
very committed individuals and groups with a strong concern to help victims but
little formal training in or funds for evaluation. The finding that perpetrator
programmes based solely in feminist theory do not reduce recidivism is an
important signal that more should be done to develop and test approaches
grounded in other theoretical frameworks. Babcock states that although none of
the three treatment models included in the meta-analysis was shown to be
superior to the others, funders should not dismiss these programmes altogether.
Improvements should be sought by tailoring and refining of the available
programmes for specific clientele, rather than rigidly adhering to any single
method. Babcock points to the positive effects on recidivism of targeting
domestic violence and abuse perpetrators with individually tailored programmes,
reflecting specific personal histories.132
The "accreditor's senior staff virtually all emerged from the DVIP. Following the "disastrous" research of DVIP in 1998. The problem was drop-outs. Their Duluth based programme was re-written and the Mirabal research, commissioned by the accreditor, avoided stating that the completion rate had apparently halved. The actual figures were all obscured by "percentages" and the academic criticsim of this has been significant. A link will be provided here.
Social workers and social services:
What is almost certainly required for many of the complex cases involved in this agenda is stability. Unfortunately many authorities choose to employ "temp" social workers, usually employed at twice the cost to the authority - the social worker's wages plus the 100% mark-up for the temp agency. The result is instability and often no follow-up and also confusion caused by "differing opinions" of differing social workers on the cases. We have heard of one couple who had 11 different social workers. Our letter to client whose work with us was apparently being undermined by a social worker is linked here:
The course has three main components and a therapeutic thread.
a) Learning new skills with which to manage yourself in a couple relationship and understand yourself and your partner (and children) .
b) Learning about many different important aspects of yourself and your relationship.
c) Developing your awareness so that you can "regulate your emotions", rather than 'simply' managing your anger.
The more detailed themes of the intensive course are linked here in the
form of "3 strands".
Weekend 1 -Day 1 The child - emotional experiences and basic skills - listening, talking and feeding back
8 primary emotions
Weekend 1 - Day 2 The adolescent - position in the family. Experiential exercises, Developing insight Impact of children witnessing "behaviour".
Weekend 2 - Day 1 The young adult &sexuality. Violence and abuse in the relationship.
Weekend 2 - Day 2 The mature adult / parent. Regulating oneself and the management of personally
Following successful completion of the course, participants
receive a certificate and are entitled to on-going support.
To date more than 900 males and 100 females have completed the course, 100% with around 200
cases commissioned by social services. The course has also been
accepted by over 20 courts including family courts, many of which are named in page 2.
Emotions drive behaviour, not "power and control".
"Anger management" is
often what is deemed to be needed by the authorities. But since emotions drive behaviour
it is more likely that you need to learn how to "regulate your emotions
". Anger may well be one of them, but some cases are really more about
fear, or jealousy or "attachment".
"Affect regulation" is the expression for the new therapies which are now quickly emerging, resulting from the new sciences which are converging on emotions and which are slowly supplanting "Cognitive behavioural therapy" CBT.
Assuming you finish the course, we will continue to support you for up to a year by telephone and email and, for people who need it, further face-to-face work is available. Usually we want to make contact with youa further 3 times after 2 months, 6 months and 1 year to hear and check out how you are managing with your new skills.
If our project does not appear right for you or you are too far away to make use of it we would advise you to be very cautious when approaching the (pro-) feminist, RESPECT aligned projects. One man's experience of DVIP is recorded here. You may find alternatives at this link. Counselling-directory.org.uk .