27th October, update – revised 7 November . New free pre-course support via Zoom. Temper is a registered charity focused mainly on working with people whose behaviour in their intimate relationships is a cause for concern. We work closely with violent, aggressive, abusive people to help them understand why they behave in such ways and to help them bring about changes in their behaviours. Our Facebook site is here.
Zoom – pre-course support. – Is free of charge. Is on Tuesday evenings from 8.00 p.m – 9.00 p.m – may run on and or on Sunday mornings from 9.00 a.m – 10.00 a.m. and may run on. To register please email stating your preference for a Tuesday evening or a Sunday morning. Pre-course support does not oblige you to attend a course. Theemail address is firstname.lastname@example.org
Temper was devised in 1994/5 and improvements are continuously being made to the programme in the light of the experience of more than 1,100 clients who have completed the work, both men and women, and the availability of much greater research into what works and what doesn’t. This has also been brought about by an explosion of knowledge through neuroscience.
We work on the basis that in the vast majority of relationships emotions drive behaviour, not a desire for “power and control”.
“Anger management” is often what is deemed to be needed by the authorities and this was where we started. But emotions drive behaviour. It is much more likely that an individual will need to learn how to “regulate” his or her emotions. Anger may well be one of them, but some cases are really much more about their other primary emotions of fear, or disgust, or trust and other secondary, discrete emotions, shame, jealousy, envy and others.
Temper’s intensive, therapeutically informed course was designed to help bring about changes in the behaviours associated with domestic violence. The focus may be on all or any of the following: physical violence, verbal abuse, aggression, emotional abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse.
Before participants can be accepted onto the programme an initial assessment meeting lasting between 1 and 2 hours is required. Historically this meeting was face-to-face in the client’s own home or near to where the client lived. As this has become much less possible, even impossible, then a Zoom, WhatsApp or telephone interview replaces it.
Each course runs as a closed group. To complete the course takes two weekends, usually one month apart. The total course time is 36 hours over the two weekends. The intervening time allows what has been learnt in the first half to be practised and processed and developed in the second half. Both halves of the work must be completed in the same group. A very small percentage of clients require more extensive work. This may then be offered by Temper or by referrals to or suggestions made as to other, more specific, sources of help. There are a maximum of 8 places available per course.
We believe in early and effective intervention so we always try to engage with the client as quickly as possible because of the risks involved to all concerned. Our target is to meet with clients within two weeks of their initial contact with us. Following an individual’s contact it usually takes about 10 days to 2 weeks to complete all the initial processes prior to taking part in a group course. Our experience is that last-minute arrivals can be impulsive and then either not join a group or settle into the work. But, if there is a space available, we will always do our best to engage with late arriving individual.